So I have this startup, Fit with Friends. Maybe you've heard of it. It's incredible. It's life giving, creative, fun, challenging, and it's made a difference in the lives of many of the people who use it. You can learn more here
if you're interested. But as of now, we're here to talk about the journey of an entrepreneur.
Recently, I've felt that the only way to be successful with Fit with Friends is to behave as if everything is urgent. Isn't this what we're told? All entrepreneurs urgently work their tails off, day and night, sacrificing family, relationships, rest, and hobbies. I must move quickly or the opportunity will be gone. It's now or never. I have to be doing 10,000 at once at all hours of the day or I won't be successful. Go! Hurry! If you don't make a budget like this, you will fail. If you don't market that way, you're doing it wrong. Now, Emma! Go!
Those voices become so overwhelming. I found myself in a place where instead of enjoying Fit with Friends, I felt lost, confused, lonely, and frustrated. The voice I heard was telling me that 90% of startups fail and asking why I think I can succeed. The voices of other people telling me what to do, defining success and failure, and reminding me how difficult this journey is cluttered my mind.
Something had to change.
As a woman who is decidedly marching to the beat of my own drum, I found myself being swallowed up by voices and people, trying to show me the ONE right way. I became so paralyzed with fear, confusion, and frustration that at the end of my wits, I decided the only thing I could do would be to step back, rest, clear my head, and think.
It was then, after taking a break from listening to other people's opinions, guidance, direction, and voices, that I began to hear my own voice.
I was reminded why I started Fit with Friends. I love creating, helping, being challenged, trying new things, and finding community. I was reminded that all of these people who offer advice are doing this to help me, but at the end of the day, everything is my decision. I am the expert. It's my drum.
Moving forward, I am confident that I am following my own path. I march to the beat of my own drum. I am a woman who stands firm in my identity, no matter if it stands out. My startup story will be different than yours. It will be mine. And I'm ok with that.
Stepping back to refocus wasn't something that I planned on doing. It came at a time when I felt lost, alone, and confused. But taking a few days off of nose to the ground work was beyond helpful in reminding me why I choose to do this, and who I am.